Today’s Thought: Confidence is not ‘they will like me’. Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t.’
For so long I have struggled with being honest. I have been so terrified that if I tell people the truth that they won’t like me any more. It has been so much easier to tell people what they want to hear – it keeps everything comfortable and safe. Until it doesn’t!
I have a role that requires me to be honest; it means that the organisation can achieve the best for its clients. Without true honesty, we will fail. As my courage in being honest grows, so does the strength within our organisation.
Of course, the requirement to be honest leads to some difficult conversations and I have recently realised that I have been anticipating these conversations more as confrontations – just the kind of situation I am desperate to avoid. So, how have I started to overcome this barrier to success and honesty?
Every day, I pledge 4 positive intentions:
Be kind, honest and professional in your words.
Have integrity and best practice in your actions.
Remain true to your vision and pay attention to detail.
Remember it’s a conversation, not a confrontation.
As long as I plan to have a gentle honest conversation in which I explain my concerns or provide my guidance, I feel that I am holding true to my values and aims. I know that I am not seeking drama or a fight so if someone responds aggressively, I don’t have to take responsibility for their words and actions. The only words and actions I am responsible for are my own.
I can feel the strength from living and speaking honestly growing within me. The warmth of confidence is slowly seeping into my soul and it is allowing me to notice my own talents and attributes; making me know I am capable of achieving my goals and that I don’t have to rely on others to do so.
So much anxiety and self doubt can be avoided and so much confidence can grow should you choose to take the honest path.